GUEST POST by MICHAEL STEINMAN That you are reading this surely means you don’t need it. But I ask your indulgence. When interacting with children we often try to teach civility, by prompting, “What’s the magic word?” [...]
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We have core stories we tell ourselves that trap us in a negative narrative: “If I speak up, my feelings might be hurt; I’m too shy to make new friends; I’m too old to take on a new project.” Esther Perel, the popular relationship therapist, contends the stories we tell ourselves are adaptive responses to childhood trauma, when [...]
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This past week America descended further into Fascist Hell, signaling the urgency to take action before protests become illegal aka Texas’ Prairieland Defendants, who received insanely large sentences for peacefully protesting at an ICE concentration camp. These draconian sentences are intended to shut down protests against Trump’s [...]
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My summer reading recommendations have books for every taste: spellbinding stories, mystery, memoir, humor, and a walking guide. FICTION The Things We Never Say by Elizabeth Strout Strout’s latest novel is one of her best: the protagonist, Artie Dam, an amicable 57-year-old popular high school teacher, is secretly depressed and contemplating [...]
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Like many women I’ve spent endless hours analyzing my relationship with my mother, giving only a passing nod to my father-daughter relationship, which impacted my independent strivings and my relationships with men. As Father’s Day approaches, it’s an opportune time to reflect on my relationship with my father. I grew up in [...]
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Contemporary beauty standards celebrate the older woman whose aging lines have been erased by cosmetic surgery, making her look years younger. Stretched out faces have become ubiquitous, no longer confined to film stars and celebrities; middle-income women are lining up for procedures from Botox to full face lifts, or traveling overseas [...]
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By PAT TAUB and LISA SAVAGE Aging with a loved one can tap into joys, strengths and the benefits, but also health changes, family tensions, and potentially devastating financial challenges. Consider this scenario: Friends of friends are wrestling with how best to care for a beloved family member who’s suffered a stroke. The condition is [...]
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“Don’t talk to me about Gaza. It’s too depressing.” “I refuse to read anything that involves the Orange Tyrant.” A dinner party invitation: “We’d love your company. Be forewarned: it will be a politics-free night.” –Common responses to news stories of the suffering in Gaza; Trump’s mean-spirited laws targeting [...]
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These days your favorite news sources likely feature stories about the war in Iran, desperation in oil-deprived Cuba, voter disenfranchisement, and Trump’s massive corruption schemes, relegating news of Gaza to a few paragraphs, reflecting ‘Gaza fatigue.’ After two plus years of waking to screens dominated by the genocide: bombed-out [...]
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GUEST POST by ABBY FULLER Each year on May 15, Israelis commemorate that day in 1948 when their country declared its independence, For Palestinians, May 15 is Nakba Day—when they grieve their ancestor’s expulsion from present-day Israel. It is impossible to understand the relationship between Palestine and Israel without understanding [...]
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Two and a half years ago, you phoned, upending me with your words, “I have a terminal illness.” After we hung up, I wept, cursing the universe for saddling you with a difficult diagnosis. You’ve beaten the odds, surprising your doctors by living fully: attending senior college classes; maintaining membership on community boards and [...]
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