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Pat TaubPat Taub

This past weekend I hunkered down with treasured artist Maira Kalman’s latest book, Women Holding Things, a collection of playful drawings of women holding things accompanied by Kalman’s witty commentary.

This delightful book prompted me to make a list of some of the things I hold along with those that will free me up if I stop holding them.

Things I Hold:

Cut flowers from my garden and then arranging them in my grandmother’s white Victorian pitcher

My current bedside novel, “Things I Never Told You” by Celeste Ng

A ready smile.  Today it was for a teenage grocery clerk with a long face.

The key to my little country retreat where my troubles vanish when I open the door.

Pat Taub, WOW blog, Portland, Maine

Sunset from the front door of my country retreat

Grief for the suffering of mothers in Gaza

A handful of fresh asparagus

A beloved summer straw hat

The banister to my second floor whose accompanying wall bears a colorful mural painted last summer by my granddaughter

My milk frother which I use every morning to make a latte.

My Nike sneakers as I prepare to go for a walk

The stillness of nature surrounding me as I sit in my screened-in porch.

My credit card as I donate relief supplies for Gaza.

A photo from a 2018 trip to London showing my youngest son photo bombing, hiding behind the other family members grouped on a park bench.

Memories of eccentric relatives for my work-in-progress memoir

Empowering words of Audre Lorde and Angela Davis that give me courage

My mother’s reminder to live each day fully

Pat Taub, WOW Blog, Portland, Maine

My mother, Jane Conrad First, celebrating her 80th birthday

My father’s reminder that persistence is the better part of change

My date book to remind me of upcoming outings with friends

A  bright red lipstick for a fancy occasion

My decades old Mason-Pearson hairbrush

A glass of celery juice recommended for my arthritis

My spoon as it’s about to dig into a luscious serving of Panna cotta

A postcard from my grandson traveling in Australia

Compassion for my brother dealing with Alzheimer’s

Private whimsical thoughts that entertain me

Hope for a peaceful world at home and abroad

A bottle of wine and snacks for a women’s gathering at my home

On good days, I hold my own

 

What I Need to Stop Holding:

Irritation with ungrateful people

Frustration with my aging body’s slowing down

Frustration with my low cholesterol diet which denies me once favorite foods like gooey sticky buns and lobster rolls

Pat Taub, WOW blog, Portland, Maine

Farewell to lobster rolls!

Impatience with my procrastination

Ditto with my irregular meditation schedule

Consuming despair over the genocide in Gaza

Ditto for global warming

Family members whose politics drive me up the wall

 

Conclusion:

Writing my “what I hold” list filled me with light, reminding me of all the things I hold that spark gratitude. So many of them are small everyday events that I gloss over in my rushing about.

Writing my “what I need to stop holding” list clarified how much energy I put into things beyond my control.  A reminder that I can’t change anyone else or the world at large, but I can change my response to move out of my frustration.  How welcoming to greet my inner wise woman!

Pat Taub, WOW blog, Portland, Maine

Holding self-love

 

 

 

 

           

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Pat Taub is a family therapist, writer and activist and life-long feminist. She hopes that WOW will start a conversation among other older women who are fed up with the ageism and sexism in our culture and are looking for cohorts to affirm their value as an older woman.

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