We have never had more ways to communicate, yet I wonder if we have forgotten how to have a conversation. I have spent much of my life talking. As a journalist, radio host, teacher, and activist, I’m familiar with the power of words. [...]
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One of the things I like about getting older is discovering I am still capable of surprising myself. I am not the woman I was at thirty, or fifty, or even seventy. I have different strengths now. I have accumulated experience, perspective, mistakes, friendships, memories—and, thankfully, wisdom. What I don’t want to accumulate is the [...]
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“Don’t talk to me about Gaza. It’s too depressing.” “I refuse to read anything that involves the Orange Tyrant.” A dinner party invitation: “We’d love your company. Be forewarned: it will be a politics-free night.” –Common responses to news stories of the suffering in Gaza; Trump’s mean-spirited laws targeting [...]
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During Women’s History Month, the tendency is to celebrate famous women in the arts and politics, often ignoring those less famous women who have made an indelible impression on our lives. This year I’m celebrating Women’s History Month by sending love notes to family members, neighbors, teachers and others to whom I owe a debt [...]
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In our increasingly unsettled times, I treasure my close female friends who offer support and solace for navigating the road ahead. When I told a friend I was blogging about women’s friendships, she good-naturedly commented, “If grown women had pajama parties, they wouldn’t need therapists.” She was referring to the close connections [...]
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Fashion commentator Emily Chou observes “Every time you dress, you’re making choices and even an “I-don’t-care” message is a clear statement.” We all want to be thought of in terms of our ideas and talents, but because we live in a visual culture, it’s almost impossible to avoid having others form a first impression based on [...]
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I propose that we enlarge Mother’s Day to honor not just our biological mothers but our spiritual mothers as well. They are the teachers, neighbors, aunts, family friends and others whose generosity of spirit left an indelible impression on our younger selves. Often these women didn’t have their own children but lovingly nurtured and [...]
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I’m whisked into a celestial landscape where the light is so dazzling I wish I had sunglasses. While I’m struggling to adjust to the light, a disembodied voice calls out, “I have your visitor’s pass. I understand you would like to meet with some of our distinguished spirits to help you sort out your confusion over the current [...]
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Do not go gentle into that good night, Old age should burn and rave at close of day. These immortal words of Dylan Thomas are a suitable motto for Feisty Old Broads, older women who reject the stereotype of the accommodating old lady. The FOB’s are women who are fearless in their individuality. They speak truth to power, laugh a lot, have [...]
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GUEST POST by PAT BESSEY Don’t wait! I have heard this before. However, after the loss of my husband LeRoy Lowell in January, it takes on a whole new meaning. This was my third marriage, and we were together for thirty-two years. My first marriage was when I was fifteen, a sophomore in high school and expecting a baby. That marriage ended [...]
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Ageism, defined as discrimination against the older adult, is very real in the lives of many, if not most, American women. The older woman loses her currency for no other reason than she looks her age. At work, her suggestions are frequently rejected; socially she is shunned because she no longer looks young; her adult children consider her [...]
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