It is a bit embarrassing to have been concerned with the human problem all one’s life and find at the end that one has no more...
Aging Thoughtfully10
Finding My Bliss
GUEST POST by EMMA MACAILLEN I am unsure that I ever find my bliss. I think it finds me. I do sense that there are preconditions in order for it to present itself. Perhaps I need to get out of my own way in order for that to happen, or at least “out of my mind.” I think bliss is a state of the awakened heart. I have glimpses [...]
Pat Taub
The Journey Home to Self: Spirituality Late in Life
Aging has brought a renewed interest in the spiritual questions I grappled with during my late night college bull sessions. Is there a God? Can prayer make a difference in one’s life? What is my spiritual path? In my middle years I was too busy raising children and building a career to grapple with meaning of life questions with the [...]
Pat Taub
Don’t Let Your Thinking Box You In!
Aging can be so challenging for the older woman that it’s a wonder any of us enjoy a happy old age, but it’s within reach provided we adjust our mind set. We all can benefit from strategies to overcome the cultural negatives that box us in. It’s only natural to indulge in thinking about good times in the past. But romancing the past [...]
Pat Taub
Is a Renegade Retirement Right for You?
GUEST POST by SUSAN SAINT-ROSSY If you were super rich, and had all the support you wanted from family, friends, and society (no matter what), what bold thing(s) would you choose to do with the next phase of your life? This may sound like a frivolous question, but for some women, it is THE essential question in retirement. Finding the [...]
Pat Taub
To ”Bibimania!” – Aging à la française
GUEST POST by JORINDE VAN DEN BERG I am an aging Dutch-American woman, who has visited France regularly for about half a century. When I moved to the U.S., I noticed the ambiguous portrayal of French women in the American media: a love-hate relationship vacillating between sheer adoration and jealousy of those “froggies” (not my words!) [...]
Pat Taub
No Sex for Me
During a recent Sunday brunch with two single women friends both, like me, in their ‘70’s the conversation turned to sex, but not in the same way it did when we were decades younger, sharing juicy tidbits about our sex lives. This time the conversation centered on how sex had lost its appeal. One friend, B confessed to losing interest [...]
Pat Taub
Aging as a Lesbian
GUEST POST By DOREEN BLUMENFELD I’m not sure there is much difference to aging as a lesbian than as a straight woman. Same aches, same muddled brain, same thinning hair, and poor eyesight. What makes lesbians different as we age? Perhaps, and only perhaps, on the surface, some lesbians have a greater appreciation for women friends and [...]
Pat Taub
When You Long For an Apology . . .
Eve Ensler’s groundbreaking new book, The Apology opens with these words: I am done waiting. My father is long dead. He will never say the words to me. He will not make the apology. So it must be imagined. For it is in our imagination that we can dream across boundaries, deepen the narrative, and design alternative outcomes. Ensler [...]
Pat Taub
Breaking the Taboo on Loneliness
“I hate coming home to an empty house. The silence can be deafening.” “I can go days without speaking to anyone except the clerk in the grocery store or my mail carrier.” “I rarely reach out to my friends when I’m feeling lonely because I’m too embarrassed to admit I’m lonely.” “My daughter tells me to stop feeling [...]
Pat Taub
When Your Adult Child Makes Your Life a Living Hell
“Out of the blue I received an email from my daughter saying she never wants to see me again.” “My son is frequently verbally abusive. I feel like I’m walking on egg shells around him, bracing myself for the next hurtful comment.” “My daughter and I always had a very loving connection until she married. Now she makes excuses [...]
Pat Taub